We conclude the series of “The Power Of A Woman – The Influencer.”
I pray the Lord has touched your heart in a special way and has convicted you to look within yourself and give you revelation where a change may occur inside and out.
12) Be A Woman Of Realistic Expectations – Don’t Set Your Expectations On People
One of the most beautiful parts of life is being in relationships. We are constantly building bonds with family, friends, coworkers, and acquaintances.
Trust and honesty are important factors in making relationships stronger. It’s a wonderful feeling when you have someone you can count on regardless of what stage in life you’re going through.
We have to be very careful that our expectations towards them are not unrealistic.
Realistic expectations – trust, honesty, communication, love, and so on.
Unrealistic expectations – to want the other person to behave and act as you want them to. When they don’t, we are disappointed.
Don’t try to change someone else because you may think they’re the one with the problem. Always look at yourself first. “What can I change within myself to be a better person?” What can I do to reach unconditional love towards people, to be compassionate, and not to judge?
No one is perfect and we all have things in our lives that we can change for the better. Focus on self and how you can make a difference. Ask the Lord to expose anything that may be hindering you in getting to the next level. Ask if there’s any hidden sin that needs to be exposed.
Luke 11:9 (AMP)
So I say to you, Ask and keep on asking and it shall be given you; seek and keep on seeking and you shall find; knock and keep on knocking and the door shall be opened to you.
When you get a response, act quickly.
They’ll be times that you have made all the changes that needed to take place, but you don’t see anything change on the other person; don’t be discouraged. Continue being molded by God. One of two things will happen:
Sometimes, the Lord will pull you away and other times He will allow you to stay in the relationship. But whatever the Lord does, hear His voice clearly and DO as He says not as we want to do.
13) Last but certainly not the least of them all is to LOVE YOURSELF
Love yourself in every stage of your life. Appreciate the person within you and love everything about yourself. You may not like your toes, your eyes, your nose; but understand that’s how the Master created you.
Perfect in His eyes through Jesus Christ.
God first loved you. We have a duty to love ourselves so we can love others. How can we love others if we can’t even love the person inside of us? How can we go out and heal souls when we can’t love ourselves first.
We have to get to a place of fulfillment in God, so that God can do a work within and through us to make an impact in our household, and everything we touch in life.
1 John 4:8 (AMP)
He who does not love has not become acquainted with God [does not and never did know Him], for God is love.
In closing, I would like to share an insight message.
There comes a time in every woman’s life when she has to take a close look at herself. Not at her circumstance, not at what she did, not how unfair life is, or not at whom made you do it. She has to just look at herself in all her glory and imperfection. Have you ever admired a woman who has been through changes in her life? Or have you made up in your mind that she is just messed up. Before you make this mistake, take a closer look.
A woman who has endured the most unusual life is someone of wisdom, someone who has been chosen by God to go through things that have made her stronger. Think of all the great women in the Bible: Mary Magdalene, Ruth and Naomi, the woman with an issue of blood flow, and Esther, to name a few. Mary was a prostitute, a very uneasy woman. But by the time Jesus was done with her, she was His closest follower.
Esther lost both her parents at a young age and was raised by her cousin, Mordecai, but by the time God was done with her, she had married one of the wealthiest men in the land. Women are so quick to beat the next one down instead of trying to hold her up. Before you wonder, “What’s up with her?” ask yourself, “What’s up with me?”
That woman could be my mother, sister, aunt, in-law, stepmother, niece, grandmother, great-grandmother, neighbor, friend, or co-worker, etc. That woman could be me.
Women are the carriers of life, not the channels of death. Let’s build and encourage each other, as did Ruth and Naomi.
May the Lord bless each and every woman in the house today and may you take a good look at yourself as a gem, a wonderful temple that the Lord has created.