The last two weeks we covered steps 1 through 5 of “The Power of the Woman – The Influencer.”
As we continue this series, I pray that you have been nudged by the Holy Spirit. If not, we have up to step 13 and I pray you will be touched. *smile*
6) Be A Woman Who Dresses The Part
Be a woman of integrity. What discourages those the most is someone who says one thing and does something else; hypocrisy. We have to practice what we preach. We are a vessel that God will use daily and as we read the Word and reach out to others, He will mold us into what we have put into our minds.
Don’t think that people aren’t watching you. There’s ALWAYS someone watching when you least suspect it. How many of us will hear someone say, “Hey, I saw you at such and such place the other day.” And you’ll say to yourself, “I don’t remember seeing her!” It happens more often than you think.
Proverbs 10:9 (AMP)
He who walks uprightly walks securely, but he who takes a crooked way shall be found out and punished.
So, don’t think you can do something in secret and get away with it. It will always be found out.
Be a woman of good taste. We are examples to the world and how we dress play a big role in our appearance. Remember, before we even open our mouths, people look at how we’re dressed. Do we follow the fashions of today with the cleavages, short skirts; tight clothes that it seems you can paint them on. Or do we follow the Holy Spirits’ leading and dress moderately.
I love to dress and I love being a woman. Didn’t God do an awesome job when He created women? But we don’t have to show off all that He’s blessed us with. We need to cover up and dress to be presentable.
When I don’t know what to wear, I ask. I go into my closet, look around, and say, “Lord, I’m tired of looking at the same clothes day in and day out. Can you help me match something today?” Ladies, you want a personal assistant to dress you? Go to the master to dress you up…. My God has put together outfits that I would have never imagined. When He’s done with me, I look fantastic. I have outfits that I would never think of putting together until He showed me.
1 Peter 3:2-4 (NLT)
2 by observing your pure and reverent lives. 3 Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. 4 You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.
Remember, people are always watching us and we can take a great opportunity to teach in a positive way.
7) Be A Forgiving Woman
Be gentle and forbearing with one another and, if one has a difference (a grievance or complaint) against another, readily pardoning each other; even as the Lord has [freely] forgiven you, so must you also [forgive].
Not forgiving someone can take such a toll in our life. We can get sick spiritually, mentally, and physically.
We can’t keep the grudge or resentment towards someone else because we’re only damaging ourselves. Sometimes people don’t even realize that you have something against them. You’re holding this bad spirit in you and it eats you up. So, please understand that you have to be freed in order for the Lord to work in you. I’m not saying that He can’t work in you now, but there will come a point when you’ll have to deal with it in order for the Lord to bring you into the next level.
I had anger inside of me that I couldn’t explain what it was. All I knew is when someone upset me; I would be upset for quite some time. I could keep a grudge towards someone for YEARS!!!! Literally!!! As I was reading a book, I asked the Lord to cleanse me from any known and hidden sins I had and to expose the ugliness. Sure enough, a few days into this prayer, as I was lying in bed, He showed me where the anger was coming from and why I behave a certain way in certain situations. He took me back to the past to an incident that occurred between 6-8 years old. As I laid there and cried with such pain, the Lord began to heal me. I forgave the person in my heart and released her from anything I may have held against her.
In this situation, I didn’t need to personally go to her and say, “I forgive you.” I had to forgive in my heart.
Forgiveness will take on two roles; forgiving within yourself and forgive verbally.
Forgiving within yourself – Is between you and God. You forgive the person and release them to the Lord.
Forgiving verbally – Is between you and God, but you take it a step further and bring acknowledgement to the person. You physically approach the individual and either forgive them or ask for forgiveness. Again, this is a process of you releasing the anger, resentment, or whatever it may be towards this person to the Lord. When applied appropriately, it’s a wonderful healing process.
8) Be A Humble Woman
Humbling ourselves is a process that consists of the acknowledgement of many other parts of our body. When someone offends us, how do we feel? Do we take it negatively or positively? We take in that thought and we digest it into our minds. If it’s negative, eventually that thought will become a negative word for someone else. If it’s positive, then we allow ourselves to exalt. In order for us to be in a humble state, we have to remember that it takes practice and diligence.
What are we thinking from our own thoughts on a daily basis? Let’s realize that we’re not here for our own pleasures but to do the Will of the Lord at any cost; we are no one without Him. Every morning, get on your knees and surrender all to Him, whether it is we need to get rid of pride, selfishness, arrogance, or negative assertiveness, we need to give it to Him to work it out in our lives.
The Lord gives us the privilege to serve Him at the capacity we allow Him to. The more garbage we remove from ourselves in His own strength, the more He uses us as His vessel.
1 Peter 5:6-7 (AMP)
6Therefore humble yourselves [demote, lower yourselves in your own estimation] under the mighty hand of God, that in due time He may exalt you, 7Casting the whole of your care [all your anxieties, all your worries, all your concerns, once and for all] on Him, for He cares for you affectionately and cares about you watchfully.