During the time of the Judges, every man did what they wanted. Everyone had turned away from the Lord and there were no established laws.
In particular to Judges 19, the following story among others in this book shows various aspects of the tragedy of the disobedience and the non-reliance of the Lord.
We begin with the entrance of a Levite man temporarily living in the most remote part of the hill district of Ephraim. He decided to live with a woman and make her his concubine. We soon learn that the concubine is unfaithful to him and returns to her fathers’ home for four months (Judges 19:1-2).
In today’s society, we feel that it’s acceptable to live with someone without marriage. Some may contend that it’s better to “test the water before committing.” But what are we truly doing to ourselves or injustice we cause for the relationship?
In reality, we cheat ourselves from the best the Lord has to offer.
Matthew 19:5-6 (AMP)
5…For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be united firmly (joined inseparably) to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh? 6So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder (separate).
When two people live together and marriage is not part of the union, God cannot honor it. The marriage of two people who become one is a covenant with God. There are many biblical promises regarding marriage which cannot be claimed unless we adhere to the principles of the Bible.
When the Lord puts two people together, the marriage will be blessed. However, this alone isn’t enough to ensure a healthy relationship. With the Lord’s help, we should already be equipped and complete within ourselves before we decide to engage in a courting relationship that may lead to marriage.
Many want to find a mate to fill a void they have in their lives. But in reality, that person should complement not complete your inner being.
One of the injustices that we cause in a marriage is to bring all of our baggage with us and think the other person will complete us. Completeness starts within ourselves and allowing the Lord to work out the kinks to prepare us to be better people.
Singles, don’t allow all the hype about living together deter you from the married life. It is a serious step and one of the most important decisions we make in life. We all have to bring this and all decisions in our lives to the Lord for prayer. When the Lord is in the midst of the relationship, we can view it in a much different way.
Marriage will be tested; that’s a guarantee. But when God is in it, we tend to see things in a different light. It allows us to cope with situations in a different mind frame.
Marriage won’t prevent adultery or any other sin that you can think of. The Bible says in…
Matthew 5:45 (AMP)
To show that you are the children of your Father Who is in heaven; for He makes His sun rise on the wicked and on the good, and makes the rain fall upon the upright and the wrongdoers [alike].
…But when we behave in obedience towards the Lord, we are given that extra protection,
We have the right to proclaim promises, claiming them, and thanking God for the provision. The unjust don’t understand that.
I Timothy 6:11-12 (AMP)
11But as for you, O man of God, flee from all these things; aim at and pursue righteousness (right standing with God and true goodness), godliness (which is the loving fear of God and being Christlike), faith, love, steadfastness (patience), and gentleness of heart. 12Fight the good fight of the faith; lay hold of the eternal life to which you were summoned and [for which] you confessed the good confession [of faith] before many witnesses.
Ephesians 6:12 (AMP)
For we are not wrestling with flesh and blood [contending only with physical opponents], but against the despotisms, against the powers, against [the master spirits who are] the world rulers of this present darkness, against the spirit forces of wickedness in the heavenly (supernatural) sphere.
We gain access where the unjust don’t have access to. Let’s reach for the utmost perfection we can achieve not through our own but through the Holy Spirit.