Ecclesiastes 11:10 (AMP)
Therefore remove [the lusts that end in] sorrow and vexation from your heart and mind and put away evil from your body, for youth and the dawn of life are vanity [transitory, idle, empty, and devoid of truth].
Tamar and Amnon were step-siblings in the house of David. Tamar loved her brother very much as sisterly love should be; but Amnon didn’t have similar feelings. His feelings went beyond the norms of a siblings love. He started to look at her as a woman and an attraction of lust started to manifest in his heart.
The first look may not be the problem, is what we do with our thoughts thereafter that matters. What gets us in further trouble is that casual turn as the person walks by, or staring at them from a distance. Then, instead, of erasing that thought in our mind, we feed it and allow the manifestation to begin.
How innocent can flirting with the opposite sex really be? We may think it’s harmless and we’re not doing anything wrong. But when we leave a small crack open, there’s Satan ready to take advantage of the opportunity. That flirtation has the potential of becoming more as we continue to dab in it.
Amnon started to think about Tamar all the time and probably started to day-dream of how it would be to lie with her. As Potiphar’s wife started to get love sick for Joseph, Amnon had similar feelings. The purity of brother/sister love was gone and allowed his lust to overtake his better judgement.
When he confided in a friend, he was given poor advice. Because this was a crafty man, Amnon acted on his words. The importance of discernment is critical as we tell others of our deepest secrets. Spiritual discernment is key to knowing whose advice we should be accepting or those we should reject. We will be able to see through the true and untrue individuals. The Lord will prepare us for whatever comes our way and give us the spiritual eyes to see through anything.
Proverbs 11:9 (AMP)
With his mouth the godless man destroys his neighbor, but through knowledge and superior discernment shall the righteous be delivered.
Tamar was instructed to go to Amnon’s house, cook for him, and feed him as he was “pretending” to be sick. There was no reason for Tamar not to trust her brother. So, she got ready and set out to do what her father instructed her to do.
Amnon fulfilled his lust with the act and raped Tamar. He, in turn, hated her more than he had loved her initially. Satan will always paint a great picture to lure us to his lies. When he’s lured us in, the blindfold is taken off and we are caught in a horrible act. I’m not saying that the devil has power over us because we, through Jesus Christ, have the power and authority on Earth over the devil (Matthew 10:1). But we have to know how to use it, in the name of Jesus, to be effective.
Just like the natural power and authority we have on Earth, if it’s not used correctly, there’s someone waiting to take it away from us; so is the devil waiting to take the same away.
Let’s pray that the Lord will give us the wisdom to use the power and authority He has given us to do His Will on Earth.