When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free
Have you ever thought of an emotion so strong that it has characteristics of steel? Steel is hard, cold, and with some elasticity depending on the thickness.
Not forgiving someone can take such a toll in our life. It can make us sick spiritually, mentally, and physically. Allowing that spirit to manifest in us will cause so much other difficulties in life because we didn’t learn how to let go of the offense of another person.
Let’s look at the word forgive.
For – suiting the purposes or needs of
Give – to hand to someone, to place in someone’s care, to grant (permission, opportunity, etc.) to someone.
Forgiveness provides the purpose or need to place in someone’s care to handle the situation. Who can we think of that can handle such a task as taking a situation and allow healing to grow from a dark place? Can we, in our own strength, handle it and be successful in the long run? Can we ask someone else to handle it? Only through the blood of Jesus can we leave the offense at His feet, walk away from it, and allow Him to pick it up and work it all out for our good. He’s the only one that can change a bad situation into a good one. The Bible says in
Romans 8:28 (KJV) And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.
God will turn ALL THINGS for good. Not some; all things.
One of the hardest things for people is the feeling that the other person is taking advantage of them. When I feel that way, I rebuke/bind that spirit that is trying to come against me and ask the Lord to cover me with His love as I’m being healed. The enemy will put in your head not to allow someone to take advantage of you, don’t allow someone to speak to you in that tone of voice, don’t allow someone disrespect you in that manner. But when you allow the Holy Spirit to handle the situation, He will tell you when to speak, and when to keep quiet. He will even tell you what to say. God will use a bad situation and turn it around to glorify and honor Him. He’s a God of opportunity and He will surely take any chance He can get to show His mighty power. But we need to be willing and obedient to follow His instructions.
Colossians 3:13 (AMP) Be gentle and forbearing with one another and, if one has a difference (a grievance or complaint) against another, readily pardoning each other; even as the Lord has [freely] forgiven you, so must you also [forgive]. We can’t keep the grudge or resentment towards someone else because we’re only damaging ourselves. Sometimes people don’t even realize that you have something against them. You’re holding this bad spirit in you and it eats you up. So, please understand that you have to be freed in order for the Lord to work in you. I’m not saying that he can’t work in you now, but there will come a point when you’ll have to deal with it in order for the Lord to bring you into the next level.
I had anger inside of me that I couldn’t explain what it was. All I knew is when someone upset me, I would be upset for quite some time. I could keep a grudge towards someone for YEARS!!!! Literally!!! As I was reading a book, I asked the Lord to cleanse me from any known and hidden sins I had and to expose the ugliness. Sure enough, a few days into this prayer, as I was lying in bed, He showed me where the anger was coming from and why I behave a certain way in certain situations. He took me back to the past to an incident that occurred when I was around 6-8 years old. As I laid there and cried with such pain, the Lord began to heal me. I forgave the person in my heart and released her from anything I may have held against her.
In this situation, I didn’t need to personally go to her and say, “I forgive you.” I had to forgive in my heart.
Forgiveness will take on two roles; forgiving within yourself and forgiving verbally.
Forgiving within yourself – Is between you and God. You forgive the person and release them to the Lord.
Forgiving verbally – Is between you and God, but you take it a step further and bring acknowledgment to the person. You physically approach the individual and either forgive them or ask for forgiveness. Again, this is a process of you releasing the anger, resentment, or whatever it may be towards this person to the Lord.
When applied appropriately, it’s a wonderful healing process.
As you sit back and think about who you need to forgive, think about the relief you’re going to receive when you hand it over to the Lord. Whatever it may be, how ugly it may seem, God understands and He is waiting for you to give it up so He can start the healing process in you. Once you make this decision, you will never regret it. You will feel a sense of pressure suddenly be lifted from you; you will actually feel lighter and better.
Father God, you know all your children and know the burdens we carry. I ask in the name of Jesus that whoever needs healing from unforgivingness that they step forward and start this process with you. Lord, heal them from head to toe, give them a fresh and new day in Christ. Show them what it feels like when we give it all to you to fix for us. Give us the strength to walk away and allow you to work it for the good. Thank you in advance for restoration and a new day as we start off in the right path with you. We love you and are grateful for all you’ve done on the Cross in Calvary. In your name we pray. Amen!
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